Farewell: The Last Post

As cliché as this sounds, there comes a point in everyone’s life where we have to “stop”. Stop, and take a step back and quietly think to ourself about who we are. Is it who you want to be? I know that the person that I’ve been lately, isn’t who I want to be.

I’ve always held myself to such high standards. I take on tasks that are deemed impossible to prove that they are possible with severe drive and determination. I can make a pretty jaw-dropping list of things I’ve accomplished by the time I turned 25 years-old. This sounds great, right? Well, it is. But it’s not when you look back and realize that while you were trying to prove yourself and achieve the impossible, you neglected other important things, hurt other people (including yourself), and turned into a person who you don’t particularly want to identify with.

Is all of this worth it, just to prove yourself? No. It’s really not. Because what you really want, most of all…you don’t have. Here’s the real question, “Do you have the courage to walk away from the life that you’ve been living…into the unknown?” If it’s what you truly want, then your answer will be “yes,” however, it might take you awhile to come to that conclusion. Its taken me months.

Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change. Socrates once said, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” I’ve discussed ending my blog for a few months now with different people to get their opinions. I’ve played with different ideas of changing the name and/or rebranding. Nobody agrees with the decision I’ve made to end it, once and for all. But, that’s my point. Just because everyone thinks I should be doing something, doesn’t mean they’re right, although I completely respect and appreciate the time they’ve taken to help me make this decision. Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them. As I mentioned earlier, the person I was, isn’t who I really am and it’s definitely not who I want to be. So, it doesn’t matter what other people’s opinions regarding the blog are. It’s my decision, and I’m not going to the let pressure and strong opinions of others make my choices anymore.

Recently I keep thinking about the concept of time. We’re all consistently surrounded by photos containing cherished moments for others, which leaves many of us wondering when is it going to be “my time” for things to start happening the way I want them to? It’s now. If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting forever. I believe we need to treasure our time. We need to guard it fiercely. Be generous with it, but be intentional about it. If you’re not doing what you love, then you’re wasting your time. We must be picky with what and who we invest our time in because wasted time is worse than wasted money.

Be who you are, not who everyone else wants to you to be. Don’t be embarrassed, like I was, to admit when you’ve started walking down a path that you don’t like anymore. You can turn around and go back to where you started. You cannot turn back time, but you can move in your correct direction. You are not the person that you were a few years ago, you are not the person that you were last week, you are who you are today, right now. The now which is present in front of you is extremely powerful, because your decisions and actions right now will form your immediate past, and what will happen in the future.

I want to end this final blog post with a quote that one of my closest friends sent me…

“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.”

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Top: Betsey Johnson | Tulle Skirt: Space 46 | Photography: Kristine Cramer Photography

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I want to give the biggest THANK YOU to Kristine Cramer Photography. Your hard work and the unbelievable amount of time you dedicated to this blog is appreciated beyond belief and I’ll never forget how supportive you’ve been. Make sure you “like” her Facebook Page and check out her Etsy Page!

Goodbye, xo

Bows and Glitter Belts

I’ve been finding myself influenced a lot by Southern style lately. I’ve always had a girly side to my style, but I’ve always tended to add a tiny little touch of edge, or dark colors to it. Recently though, I’ve been drawn to over-sized bows, pastel colors, glitter, and sparkly things. My high school preppy-ness (is that a word?) seems to be back…and I love it! I got this fabulous silk shirt years ago, but I’ll never get rid of it because its one of my favorite articles of clothing hanging in my closet. I paired it with white shorts from J.Crew, and a glittery belt that pulls everything together through the metallic detailing on the top! Throw on some Tory Burch ballet flats, some pearl earrings, and your favorite sunglasses and you’re good to go!

“People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Never throw anyone out.”

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Photography: Kristine Cramer Photography // Like her Facebook page

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Pink Polka Dots

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As you’re well aware by now, I love anything pink. I also love polka dots. What happens when you combine the two—pink + polka dots? Obsession. Its important to have a pair of shorts in your closet that have a fun print, whether its subtle or bold. Its also extremely important to have a comfortable over-sized white flowy shirt because you can pair it with any bottom or jacket to throw on when you’re chilly. Add some of your favorite accessories to spice it up, and you’re now ready to walk out the door!

“Perfection is shallow, unreal, and fatally uninteresting.”

**These photos were taken in May. These shorts are no longer available due to Quiksilver’s decision to not move forward with their Quiksilver Junior’s or Women’s lines.**

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Photography: Kristine Cramer Photography

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10 Reasons Sisters are the Best

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Sisters. The ladies in your life who you really didn’t choose, but would have chosen them anyways. The girls who can read your body language quicker than anyone else. The only ones who know when its time to grab some junk food and cry together. And, most importantly, the important women you go through your entire life with. Without mine, life would be dull and unsparkly. Here are 10 reasons why sisters are the best…Actually, here’s 13! 10 isn’t enough.

1. Every night is a sleepover. I mean, really though. Every night you can hang out with each other, watch your favorite TV shows, snack on your favorite junk food, talk on the phone with a friend together, and drink wine/champagne. Well, my little sister can’t drink wine/champagne yet, so she will stick to Martinelli’s Sparkling Apple Cider! What’s even better about this “sister sleepover” concept, is the part where you can go do your own thing once you’re over hanging out and it won’t be considered rude. Let’s face it, there’s nothing more frustrating than a friend who doesn’t get the hint that the sleepover is over once the sun rises.

2. You can always count on her to paint your right finger nails because you “just can’t.” I can paint my left finger nails perfectly—sometimes they look way too good to be true. But the right hand nails, now that’s another story. Your sister probably won’t want to do this extra chore for you, but she still will. Because…she loves you, as annoyed as she may be!

3. She’s the only other girl who you will spend the most of your life with. Sibling relationships are the longest enduring relationships we have. Isn’t that strange, but also beautiful to think about? We’ve known our siblings longer than most of our friends, and will hopefully live longer than our parents.

4. You’re 100% comfortable around her. She doesn’t judge your “crying face,” sleep-talking, or other strange habits you may have! My sister may, or may not, talk in her sleep. She also might sleep with a pillow-pet. I may, or may not, have to sleep with the television on (or some other form or white noise), and I also might still have my baby blanket. You might find this bizarre, but its normal to us.

5. She knows all your secrets. Yeah, maybe she knows that you ate an extra cupcake, or knows the number of times your iTunes account claims you listened to one song over-and-over-and-over again. So what? Its a good song.

6. You never have to worry about getting “bored” when she’s around because its like having a best friend with you at all times, only you can tell them to “go away” once you’ve had enough. I don’t think this needs to be expanded upon.

7. She’s the only one who knows what you’re saying by reading your eyes. Its almost like you have a secret language that only you both understand.

8. She isn’t afraid to tell you the truth, tough-love style. You might need to get your eyebrows or lip waxed, or you really shouldn’t wear that dress, or that you’re acting like a brat! Certainly, this is out of love. She just doesn’t want you to embarrass yourself.

9. She takes you cruising in her car, bumping loud music that only we have heard before (as strange as the music might be). Obviously, you both sing at the top of your lungs the entire drive without even having a normal conversation because you’d rather wait to talk about whatever comes to mind later than turn the music down.

10. You’d rather hang out with her instead of your actual best friends. No offense, sometimes one just likes to hang out with her sister. You understand.

11. She supports you in major events in your life. She’s always your cheerleader, no matter what. Whether you’re right or wrong, she’s there for you.

12. She likes all of your social media posts when no one else does. You can always count on her for a “like”!

13. You obviously get in passionate disagreements, but you quickly make up because you can’t go a day without speaking or “telling them something.”

Check out our sister sleepover below!

“Trust in His timing. Rely on His promises. Wait for His answers. Believe in His miracles. Rejoice in His goodness. Relax in His presence.”

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ssp-4-Lssp-54-L_39T0083bw-Lssp-58-Lssp-1-LCandle lantern: Pier1 Imports | Faux Sheepskin: Ikea | Dried out Hydrangeas: Personal (not fake) | + Sign Candle: Saarloos & Sons | Champagne Flutes: Waterford Crystal | Fluffy Pillow: Pier1 Imports | Telephone: Vintage | Monogrammed Pillow: Homemade | Personalized Eye Masks: Embroidery By Sabrina on Etsy

Photography: Kristine Cramer Photography

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