As cliché as this sounds, there comes a point in everyone’s life where we have to “stop”. Stop, and take a step back and quietly think to ourself about who we are. Is it who you want to be? I know that the person that I’ve been lately, isn’t who I want to be.
I’ve always held myself to such high standards. I take on tasks that are deemed impossible to prove that they are possible with severe drive and determination. I can make a pretty jaw-dropping list of things I’ve accomplished by the time I turned 25 years-old. This sounds great, right? Well, it is. But it’s not when you look back and realize that while you were trying to prove yourself and achieve the impossible, you neglected other important things, hurt other people (including yourself), and turned into a person who you don’t particularly want to identify with.
Is all of this worth it, just to prove yourself? No. It’s really not. Because what you really want, most of all…you don’t have. Here’s the real question, “Do you have the courage to walk away from the life that you’ve been living…into the unknown?” If it’s what you truly want, then your answer will be “yes,” however, it might take you awhile to come to that conclusion. Its taken me months.
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change. Socrates once said, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” I’ve discussed ending my blog for a few months now with different people to get their opinions. I’ve played with different ideas of changing the name and/or rebranding. Nobody agrees with the decision I’ve made to end it, once and for all. But, that’s my point. Just because everyone thinks I should be doing something, doesn’t mean they’re right, although I completely respect and appreciate the time they’ve taken to help me make this decision. Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them. As I mentioned earlier, the person I was, isn’t who I really am and it’s definitely not who I want to be. So, it doesn’t matter what other people’s opinions regarding the blog are. It’s my decision, and I’m not going to the let pressure and strong opinions of others make my choices anymore.
Recently I keep thinking about the concept of time. We’re all consistently surrounded by photos containing cherished moments for others, which leaves many of us wondering when is it going to be “my time” for things to start happening the way I want them to? It’s now. If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting forever. I believe we need to treasure our time. We need to guard it fiercely. Be generous with it, but be intentional about it. If you’re not doing what you love, then you’re wasting your time. We must be picky with what and who we invest our time in because wasted time is worse than wasted money.
Be who you are, not who everyone else wants to you to be. Don’t be embarrassed, like I was, to admit when you’ve started walking down a path that you don’t like anymore. You can turn around and go back to where you started. You cannot turn back time, but you can move in your correct direction. You are not the person that you were a few years ago, you are not the person that you were last week, you are who you are today, right now. The now which is present in front of you is extremely powerful, because your decisions and actions right now will form your immediate past, and what will happen in the future.
I want to end this final blog post with a quote that one of my closest friends sent me…
“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.”
I want to give the biggest THANK YOU to Kristine Cramer Photography. Your hard work and the unbelievable amount of time you dedicated to this blog is appreciated beyond belief and I’ll never forget how supportive you’ve been. Make sure you “like” her Facebook Page and check out her Etsy Page!